Two patients, one daytime attendant, two night attendants, husband, myself, enquiries, hospital visits, calls,calls and more calls!Three weeks of this situation and I am still sane & smiling! My mother in law (91 yrs) was in the ICU, and later hospitalized for a few days and discharged, and a week before that, my mother (77 yrs)was in the same hospital with a dislocated shoulder. Things went totally out of gear for a couple of days by this unexpected crisis,but soon normalcy returned.My friends sympathize with me while still skeptical about my sanity!
No doubt, our workload has doubled, but since there is no escape from it,we have accepted it.And accepted it with willingness and patience. Having paid help definitely makes it easier to manage, but they have to be constantly monitored. They have to be briefed about their work or else they tend to just idle away the time.And cooking and serving healthy nutritious meals is top priority with no compromise. In spite of all the chaos and frenzy, our household seems to be still running smoothly.
Strict routine enables us to have our own space and we have not given up our walks & exercises albeit altered timings.Reading, music,TV watching- nothing has stopped. Ofcourse both my husband & me can not venture out together.We take turns so that one always remains at home.This may continue for a few days and we hope everything will become normal soon.
Our stress levels have definitely increased but we are trying our best to be calm.Thinking positively and facing situations as they come has certainly helped.Life becomes easier when there is acceptance. It is a very difficult task to handle two demanding elders at the same time.In the present scenario ,no one is willing to help physically, all the more if the person is old with failing health.This is the bitter truth! And we ourselves are moving towards that end.
No doubt, our workload has doubled, but since there is no escape from it,we have accepted it.And accepted it with willingness and patience. Having paid help definitely makes it easier to manage, but they have to be constantly monitored. They have to be briefed about their work or else they tend to just idle away the time.And cooking and serving healthy nutritious meals is top priority with no compromise. In spite of all the chaos and frenzy, our household seems to be still running smoothly.
Strict routine enables us to have our own space and we have not given up our walks & exercises albeit altered timings.Reading, music,TV watching- nothing has stopped. Ofcourse both my husband & me can not venture out together.We take turns so that one always remains at home.This may continue for a few days and we hope everything will become normal soon.
Our stress levels have definitely increased but we are trying our best to be calm.Thinking positively and facing situations as they come has certainly helped.Life becomes easier when there is acceptance. It is a very difficult task to handle two demanding elders at the same time.In the present scenario ,no one is willing to help physically, all the more if the person is old with failing health.This is the bitter truth! And we ourselves are moving towards that end.
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